I weary of ignorance and bigotry.
Today, I posted on Twitter that I am angry at Kim Kardashian for making what appears to be a mockery of marriage. Only 72 days ago, she got married in this over the top wedding, spending tons and tons of money ($20 million), only to announce yesterday that she is filing for divorce, citing “irreconcilable differences.”
In my post, I shared that I was angry because marriage is sacred.
That prompted a response from someone who said he was confused. You see, I support same-sex marriages. I have seen same-sex marriages with commitment so deep that is seems almost palatable. From my vantage point as a Christian minister, what is most important is the keeping of vows said before God, not the sex of the people saying the vows.
The sacredness comes in keeping a vow made to God.
I have long said that too many people want a “wedding,” but not a marriage. A “wedding” is a 20 minute to perhaps one hour event; a marriage, however, is a lifetime.
People, especially girls, want “weddings,” because we love the fairy tale spirit and aura surrounding them. We want the white dress, the long train, the veil, and, of course, the gifts. I have seen so many people, and I am talking heterosexual people, plan and participate in “weddings,” only to abandon the marriage shortly thereafter.
What bothers me is the lack of commitment and the lack of respect for God. It is not unlike people putting their hands on a Bible in a court of law and swearing to tell “the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, so help me God,” and then sit down and promptly begin lying.
It makes me sick. That blatant disregard and disrespect for God is the same thing I see when people get married and promise God that they will be with each other, and stay faithful to each other, “til death us do part.”
It feels like Kim Kardashian only had her elaborate wedding as a publicity stunt. There seems to have been no intention of staying together with her new husband “for better, for worse.” She could have, and perhaps should have, had her wedding performed by a friend with no mention of God at all.
I am not saying that all heterosexual weddings are shams; clearly, that is not the case. But what I am saying is that a vow made before God ought to be sacred. I do not think that God would condemn a same gender-loving couple who married, promised God to stay married no matter what, and actually did it any quicker than God would praise a heterosexual couple who promised to stay together and had no intention of doing it.
I think what God honors is love between people. I think God honors people who take him seriously. Same-gender loving people are condemned by people, not by God.
I refused to engage in a conversation with my social media friend. I am not going to waste valuable energy in an argument which will go nowhere.
But at the end of the day, as I think about a God who demands an obedience which leads to a deep presence of integrity, I don’t think the Kardashian wedding boded well…any more than I think that people who despise gay and lesbian people because they are gay and lesbian sit well in the divine craw. I have no way of really knowing, but I would put my money on my opinion on this one.
That would be a candid…observation.